FORgiving Yourself

Forgiving yourself allows you to forge ahead with the grace of release. Releasing yourself from behavior you are not proud of will help you to grow in the understanding that who you are in this moment, outweighs what you did in the past.

Celebrate yourself for giving yourself the opportunity to grow and change. Self-forgiveness is internal mercy that allows you to grow and evolve through an evaluation that leads you to a better self.

Fear Cannot Rule

Mental Wellness is affected by the fear-based approach to life. When we are more influenced and driven by our fears, we live in a constant state of underachievement and anxiety, which abuses our mental hygiene. How well you manage negative fear-based thoughts affects your progression in life. Fear keeps us bound and often boundaryless. If you are afraid of adverse outcomes from your actions, you will be indecisive and let life lead you instead of directing your experience. If you are scared to say no to others and focus on always pleasing others, you will limit yourself by the opinions of others.

There is an adage that says, “you treat people how to treat you.” I want to add to that by stating, “you let fear know how much it can push you around based on your response to it.” The more we respond to fear, the more we invite it to take over. There is normal, appropriate fear, such as whether or not to ride a roller coaster or spiders. So, if you are at an amusement park, you must decide to ride or hold the bags of someone who does. If this thought of getting on the roller coaster consumes you and your constant thought becomes all of the bad things that can happen to you if you get on, then you have given the fear control.

Having a fear of spiders could be very typical. It may not be as harmless if the vision of a spider terrifies you or causes you to begin to go out of your way to avoid making contact with one. Then you could be experiencing a phobia such as arachnophobia. Phobias can cause irrational thoughts and allow fear to have a seat on the throne of your life.

Have you ever allowed fear to control you? Fear tends not to be a guest. If you invite fear into your life, it will become the host, and you will be led around by it. Fear controls, although it may appear comforting if it becomes habitual.

Have you allowed fear to rule your decisions or guide your life?
Now is the time to put fear in its proper place!

Do that

Often we focus on the areas of our life that are grueling. We constantly focus on what we need to do, the tasks we must accomplish, and the routine assignments of life that seem to be never-ending. I recently told a friend of mine that laundry is never finished because as soon as you celebrate your completion, another load somehow makes its way into the hamper. The process starts over once again. My point is that the tasks and responsibilities will always be there. There will always be something that you must do. What about the things that you enjoy doing? Have you done something today that made you smile?

Smiling is good for our mental wellness. When we participate in activities that cause us to grin, our perception of the day changes. It would be best to allow yourself time to do something you enjoy, something that makes you happy. Whatever that activity is…do that. Don’t deprive yourself of joy by focusing on all of your must-do’s each day. Set daily reminders that you must do something fun, relaxing, or enjoyable. Yes, the more you do for yourself that edifies and strengthens you for what is ahead, the more you think right about you!


Mindfulness is the practice of keeping your mind at peace and focused. It is the ability to discipline your thoughts and prevent them from running wild. Have you ever let your mind wander and realized that time eluded you and your purpose at the moment was forgotten? Did you worry yourself sick over recurring and constant thoughts about what if?

The what-ifs of life can take us into a downward spiral and quickly lead us into disparaging thoughts if we are not mindful.

Today, I want to encourage you to keep your mind full of God. This means that your thoughts will be filled with peace and joy. Your mind will be at rest, and your heart will be happy! When stressful thoughts try and press your mind and turn your focus to chaotic rhythms of doubt, redirect your attention to a loving God who already has that worry answered and under control.

Keep your mind full of Him!


Day 5

Matthew 6:10 They kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.

Lord, you instructed your disciples to pray for your will to be done on earth as it is in heaven. In response, we ask the same, “Thy will be done.” May this resonant with each of us on a daily basis. Help us to remember that when we are in your will, we will not waste time spinning our wheels. Show us each how to align with your perfect plans. We want to finish 2020 in sync with you. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Finishing STRONG 5-Day Prayer

Day 4

Isaiah 33:2 Lord, be gracious to us; we long for you. Be our strength every morning, our salvation in time of distress.

Father, we are asking you to strengthen our bodies and heal us.We take our claim to what you provided for us on Calvary. You bore our distress, anxiety and emotional pain. Thank you for every stripe that you took for us on the cross.  Show us how to trust in this completed work. We need the proper pacing along with your perfect strength and energy. We must be in balance.  Show us how to balance our lives and how to take time to rest in you. In Jesus’ name. Amen. 


Philippians 3:14 I press toward the mark of the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.    

Day 3

Father, we pray that we stay focused on what matters to you. This is the time of year that the enemy will try and get our focus on the chaos going on around us. We declare focus and peace! We know that, “X marks the spot!” All that we need will be found in you. May we all find the sweet spot in our seek for more of your glory in our lives. We will x out dissention, distraction and doubt as we follow your leading. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Finishing Strong 5-DAY PRayer

Day Two

Day 2

Psalm 119:93 I will never forget your precepts, for by them you have revived me.  Father, we ask you to revive us. We pray for a revival in prayer and our service. Show us your ways so that we may walk in greater compassion. We desire to perform at the next level. Let it begin with each of us. As you order our steps, mold us in a way that the vision you give us will speak through us everywhere our feet trod. Please help us to stay committed to being poured into and receive the support we need as we closeout this year.We ask that you order our steps in this last quarter so that we are prepared for the blessings that are in our future. In Jesus’ name. Amen.